Planning Your Move
Moving is exciting. It’s an adventure as families look
forward to new places, friends, and neighbours. Many find
the experience brings them closer; others dread the
inevitable upheaval, the unwelcome changes and the stress
involved. So, how do you decide?
Identify what you will have — perhaps fresh air, better
schools and less daily travel. Having identified these
primary goals, what else will you need to help maximise the
outcome, e.g., room to extend; good shopping; a local park?
Next, identify what and who will no longer be part of your
life — perhaps a treasured social network, a sympathetic GP
and a reliable mechanic?
In thinking this through use both your head and your heart
and involve all the family. Logic may dictate one course of
action, but it also has to feel right. There are a lot of
emotions around hearth and home. They need to be weighed
alongside the practical and mundane.
Positive and negative feelings well up, often mixed together
with no consistency. Positives like fresh discoveries,
different challenges and new beginnings can be found jumbled
together with negatives like feelings of dislocation,
disloyalty and loss of identity.
Some of us might be escaping from particular sources of
distress like difficult neighbours, a poor social
environment, or traffic noise and pollution. Others, perhaps
looking to distance themselves a failed relationship or bad
memories, may have a harder time. These issues resonant
within us; they will be part of the baggage we unpack at the
other end.
Got all the data? Then make the decision. Take 60 seconds,
no more. If it’s yes, then start researching costs and
locations. If it’s no, then celebrate and get on with your
life. If either decision is fundamentally wrong the topic
will resurface more and more strongly in the weeks to come.
Doubts and fears are normal, but your instincts have their
own voice. Listen if they begin singing a different song.
Knowing that your move is imminent can be exhilarating, but
also a little daunting. What will happen? Will it go well?
Will you like the new area once you are living there? Will
you be able to successfully meet all the challenges?
Confusion and disorder is inevitable. To stay personally
balanced requires a conscious effort. Here are some ideas to
preserve our sanity and ease the stress:
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Make a plan and assign the tasks. You cannot cope alone;
get others to help you. Keep your expectations of
yourself and others realistic.
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Make some ‘you-time’ every day to totally switch off and
relax. A sense of proportion and a sense of humour are
invaluable. Don't sweat the small stuff.
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Admit to your welter of conflicting feelings. Find the
best way to express them and what you need to do to feel
better.
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Even if you live alone, you will not be the only one
affected by this move. Let others know they matter to
you and involve all those affected — especially the
kids.
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Stay positive and embrace the changes wholeheartedly.
o - o - o - 0 - o - o - o
Many people set out to look for the forest
and get lost in the trees.
In your dreams
coaching gives you the space,
time and tools to break out of this self-perpetuating cycle, get
a clear picture of what you want and helps you design a suitable
route map to your chosen destination.
Your first success has been recognising the
need for assistance.
Your second is having the good sense to call for
it.
Call
Paul Hayward
on
01234 831631
"Your
vision will become clear only when you can look into your own
heart. Who looks outside dreams, who looks inside awakens."
~ Carl Jung
