Waiting for the Sale

So you have decided to move; the house is on the market; you are trawling the estate agents for your next property and you are down in the dumps. What’s wrong with you?

Moving is supposed to be exciting, but all you can think about is the mess, the upheaval and the unwelcome changes. Moving house is not the same as moving home. There’s much truth in the old saying ‘home is where the heart is’ and to feel your motivation rising and falling is normal.

You can expect some negative feelings, like disloyalty and isolation, dislocation and loss. Even bereavement may not be too strong a word. You are moving out of your comfort zones and so are those around you. First there’s the pain of parting with old friends and familiar faces, then there’s the insecurity of being a nameless stranger in an untested neighbourhood.

On better days you will experience the thrill of fresh beginnings and pastures new. There will be the positive feelings associated with novelty and adventure, challenge and change. After all, growth begins where our comfort zones end.

Human beings are both social and territorial animals. Where our homes are concerned, the social element is often overlaid with status issues. With all this going on inside you, it should come as no surprise that having prospective purchasers traipsing through your living space feels like an invasion of privacy. So it is, but this is an integral part of selling. Keep the vacuuming, dusting and polishing down to what’s really necessary. If the sense of intrusion gets too much, hand the viewings over to the estate agent and arrange to be out.

One of the top causes of moving-related stress is a broken chain, whether it is the person from whom you are buying or the person who is buying from you. One way of coping with such set-backs is to think of an occasion where you wanted one thing, didn’t get it, then you got something even better. Another is allowing yourself to become OK with the idea of it not happening. Adopt the mentality that everything is for the best and ask yourself “In 100 years, what difference will it make?” And if you don’t make this move, what will you have that you though you would lose?

As much as you might want to move, try to relax. Nurturing a burning desire only serves to make you tense. Maintaining a sense of detachment will help you to be more at ease and more open. This will make you a lot more resourceful and better able to generate solutions to any of the problems that will surely arise.

If you've been looking for a home for months with no luck, take a break and enjoy yourself. It will happen when it happens. Plan time-outs for you and your family. Take day trips or go away for a weekend. To quote Napoleon Hill, “patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success."

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"Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely." ~ Rodin